Brian and Melinda adopt another son

[Shady]

Brian could just say he's been sleeping with the maid 

[Andrew G. Doe]

. I don't see why we (meaning the ones that disagree with the decision) can't at least try to be happy for the family and see it their way.

I don't see why FOR ONCE Brian (& Melinda) can't keep his private life.... private.

They did, with Dylan: announced they'd got him (week of the 2004 BWPS premier then, for some four years... nothing. Not a peep, not a picture.

And you know what happened ? People started asking if everything was alright, wondering if maybe he had some kind of problem. No-win situation.

[DonnaK]

As I've mentioned earlier, I think, I put a child up for adotption back in 1970 and it was because I loved the child that I did what was best for him. This being said, nowadays, there are alot of open adoptions going on. I'll tell you what...if I were the birth mother in this case, I really would rather my child NOT go to the Wilson's. Because of their age and their fame. Those are two facts going against the child. The age doesn't need to be explained. They are definitely over the age that most states consider for adoptive parents. How they pulled this off will remain in your own minds, and I think we can all figure that one out. The fame part doesn't seem to help any child. Just read the newspapers. I have no respect for Missy and I think Brian is led by his nose. End of my story.

[Jay]

Not to be overly mean, but isn't their some kind of law against somebody with a long history of mental issues adopting a child?

[♩♬🐸 Billy C ♯♫♩🐇]

I thought there was too...then again, he was likely evaluated thoroughly before any of the adoptions.

[Smilin Ed H]

The speculation here is beginning to look like some tawdry gossip magazine.

[shelter]

And another thing... What if something would happen to Melinda... Can you imagine Brian Wilson raising four young children on his own?

[shelter]

The speculation here is beginning to look like some tawdry gossip magazine.

I think it's a good and decent discussion about a moral issue. Nothing wrong with that.

[Dancing Bear]

. I don't see why we (meaning the ones that disagree with the decision) can't at least try to be happy for the family and see it their way.

I don't see why FOR ONCE Brian (& Melinda) can't keep his private life.... private.

They did, with Dylan: announced they'd got him (week of the 2004 BWPS premier then, for some four years... nothing. Not a peep, not a picture.

And you know what happened ? People started asking if everything was alright, wondering if maybe he had some kind of problem. No-win situation.

Good point.

[Aegir]

And another thing... What if something would happen to Melinda... Can you imagine Brian Wilson raising four young children on his own?

He has enough family and employees so that he wouldn't have to raise them on his own.

[shelter]

He has enough family and employees so that he wouldn't have to raise them on his own.

No matter how much family and how many employees he has, the idea of Brian Wilson, nearing 70, without Melinda, with his history of mental illnesses, being the sole legal guardian of four young children doesn't sound right. And no kid should be raised by "employees" anyway.

So basically this child has one stable parent and she'll be in her 80s by the time he's old enough to live on his own. Seems pretty risky to me.

[runnersdialzero]

And another thing... What if something would happen to Melinda... Can you imagine Brian Wilson raising four young children on his own?

He has enough family and employees so that he wouldn't have to raise them on his own.

A mentally ill man approaching 70 who needs help from his family and employees to raise a child makes a good father. Leaving the child in the care of the employees is good for the child.

Edit: shelter already said what I just said. DAMN EHT.

[Andrew G. Doe]

And another thing... What if something would happen to Melinda... Can you imagine Brian Wilson raising four young children on his own?

Wouldn't have to - the nannies would do it.

[Shady]

It's weird, I'm kinda jealous of the kid 

[Pretty Funky]

Opinions?

1) The Wilsons
2)The Pitts
3)Madonna

[Nicole]

No matter what age Brian adopted at, I'm sure he'd still be getting sh*t for it. As of right now, he's "too old." Twenty five years ago, he'd be an alright age, but Landy was around. Thirty five years ago...yeah, and the kid(s) would be in the same boat as Carnie and Wendy were. Fourty five + years ago, too young and inexperienced to raise a child. Another no win situation like AGD was talking about.

I think I'm missing the main problem that people are having with this. Is it Brian's age, his past, and how he was able to adopt a child, or is it the welfare of the child you're concerned about? I'm inclined to think it can't be both ways. If the welfare of the child is the main issue, I think you're worrying over nothing. He's going to be getting lots of love and there is plenty of money and means to get him what he needs to make sure he is taken care of properly. Brian's age can't be helped, and I think it has very little to do with how good of care the child will receive. It'll be like being raised by grandparents, which plenty of kids are.

[Amy B.]

Yes, it's his age that people have a problem with. I can see it both ways, but I don't think courts in California take age as the first consideration when deciding whether to award custody. Look at Michael Jackson's kids. I believe the court gave custody to Jackson's mother, who is 79.

In terms of his mental state, maybe if someone can demonstrate the ability to work and earn an income, that's a big consideration. And Brian can. He has also (as far as we know) been a successful father to his other adopted children.

[urbanite]

A child ideally needs both his father and mother involved as he grows up to adulthood.  Circumstances can change, a parent may die, a divorce interveens, but to have an older mother and a father that's only partially involved, is the wrong way to start out.  I say that as a man who is 46 years older than his daughter.

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I haven't checked out this board in a long time. Wow, that's just weird.  Good luck to the tyke. I've read interviews with Brian where he's said that adopting the kids was all Melinda's idea, and that having kids underfoot makes him nervous.  He sometimes says how much he loves the kids and how much he enjoys them, but other times he sounds completely unenthusiastic about it.  He already had two daughters. I think Melinda is competing with Wendy and Carnie because they have all those grandkids.  She never has much nice to say about his first family.  She is also a hoarder of animals.  Having a bunch of kids goes along with that.  Though I guess she's not in Octomom territory yet, or Angelina Jolie.  What is it about the attraction to achieving fame and the narcissism that goes with it that (and I'm talking about Melinda here, who never would have married a man in Brian's condition in a million years, or even someone with his personality,  if he weren't famous and rich)  makes for such screwy values in peoples' personal lives?

[Wirestone]

Forget Marie -- I think you assume a lot about Melinda that you cannot possibly know. Folks who are in Brian's "condition," whatever that is, don't live in huts somewhere if they're not famous. They live in communities like yours and mine, and yes, they often get married and have families. It's not like having a mental illness makes you radioactive or something. For that matter, there are surely many people who, regardless of how much money Brian may have, would have never contemplated a relationship with him. Melinda did not choose an easy life when she married Brian. But neither did my partner, or any number of people here who might be in relationships with folks who are depressed, anxious or chronically ill in some way. But they do it anyway. And it is seldom to exploit.

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I admit I'm being perhaps too cynical.  I just know it's probably not a great idea for people pushing 70 to adopt kids, for all the reasons others here have outlined.  It makes me suspect her motives in other areas.  And I really doubt it was Brian's idea to adopt a fourth kid. 

Does the "see you next year" comment by the judge mean he thinks another is on the way, or do they have to undergo court monitoring on a regular basis?  That is kind of odd.

[hypehat]

Does the "see you next year" comment by the judge mean he thinks another is on the way, or do they have to undergo court monitoring on a regular basis?  That is kind of odd.

That struck me as perhaps a tad cynical on the part of the California Judiciary.....

[shelter]

Forget Marie -- I think you assume a lot about Melinda that you cannot possibly know.

Right. Brian is an intelligent, creative, interesting person who can be quite funny and charming. Is it so hard to believe that Melinda just loves him for who he is? And after all, Melinda is obviously the type of person who likes to have others depending on her care (otherwise she wouldn't have four adopted children and about 20 dogs), so in that sense, Brian is the perfect man for her.

[carl r]

Yes that hits the nail on the head. There's every reason to think that having these kids around will actually extend their active retirement, if she is that kind of person.

[nobody]

Why do they adopt? I thought Melinda was only in her 30s, surely she can still create babies in her belly?