But seriously, some of the hardcore posters are intimidating as hell, and PMs out of the blue to some of these super-fans seem... intrusive and obnoxious. Then again, so is asking for it in threads.
I can understand where you are coming from but it is a fallacy though. Most people here are "big teddy bears"
when you get down to it even if outwardly it doesn't seem like it. The one thing that I would advise is that you have built at least a reputation for being a contributor to the forum before randomly PM'ing people for stuff. This is as much of a courtesy to the forum as it is making sure that you aren't someone looking to exploit the goodwill of the members rdregof the forum.
This is my quandary and why I didn't pick a random name to PM. I don't post much and never will. I read the board regularly because I love the band and I enjoy the discussions, but I rarely feel the need to post. I hardly see why the number of posts should influence a fellow fan in asking to hear something everyone is already talking about.
And in my opinion, goodwill only applies to the source. If everyone else here is so concerned about secrecy or pissed off at all the requests, why talk about it at all? As I said before, I come here for the news and conversation, not the sweet hook-ups. Trust me, I would much rather get it from one of those evil sites-that-shall-not-be-named than trying to get in good with the cool kids.